A Morning Ritual for Self-Love in 5 Easy Steps

I love morning rituals. I like how they help me to structure and organize my life, and how they are an...

I love morning rituals. I like how they help me to structure and organize my life, and how they are an anchor I can always go back to, whatever life throws at me.

Over the years, I have found that what you do early in the morning, during that tiny moment where you wake up and become aware of your existence, can make or break your entire day. So, to me, having a good morning routine is essential to being happy.

When I first started to work on loving myself more, I started to add more elements of self-love into my morning routine. Where the routine was rather practical and pragmatic at first – writing down top to-dos, reading out my weekly intentions, and focusing on my vision board – once I started working on love and compassion, I needed more love and compassion in the morning. By engaging in those goals, I not only set myself up for a productive and successful day, but a happy one and loving one, too.

So, here is my morning routine of awakening into self-love:

A morning ritual for self-love in five easy steps

Step 1: Upon waking up, have a positive and loving thought

Every day, when I wake up, once I’m aware of who and where I am, I bring a loving thought into my mind. This can be anything. In my case, I’ll usually think about the love I have for my husband or my friends, the happiness that I get from my dog Flex, or the delicious coffee that I’ll be tasting soon. Whatever it is for you, make sure it is something that you love and look forward to. This simple step will help you create a positive mindset – a key ingredient for self-love and happiness.

Step 2: There are no “have-to’s” early in the morning

As a morning practice, I have learned to allow myself to do and feel anything that I want for the first moments I’m awake. In the first moments of my day, I have no to-do list and I listen to nobody but myself. Usually, I’ll look outside the window, take a few deep breaths, sit at the kitchen table, and simply let myself wake up into my day. Most days, I’ll close my eyes and it will feel like a meditation. But again, without any obligations. I just do what I feel like. This is my sacred space and it allows me to ground myself for what’s to come.

Step 3: Make sure to take your coffee or tea in the now

After I have given myself the time to peacefully awaken, I make myself some coffee or tea, depending on my mood and feelings. When it’s ready and I drink it, I make sure I’m not doing anything else other than savoring the taste, warmth, and aromas. This brings me from wherever I am back into the now, close to the experience. So often, we drink our coffee without even noticing how good it tastes or how fresh it smells. A missed opportunity to enjoy what life has to offer us. That’s why I’ve made it a habit to really be aware of it when I drink it. It’s a little gift I give myself every day.

Step 4: Write down your intentions for the day

A very important part of my morning ritual is writing down my intentions for the day. By the time I am doing this, I have had a look at my schedule and know what my day will look like. Depending on who I’m going to meet, what I have to do, and what feelings I associate all that with, I think of an intention. If I know I have some difficult meetings ahead of me, I’ll write an intention to keep me grounded and calm, and if I am looking forward to seeing a friend, I will write an intention for us to have the best of times. Throughout the day, I go back to my intention a few times, making sure I remember what’s important for me and how I want to feel.

Step 5: Don’t forget to say “I love you”

The final – and most important step – of my morning ritual is saying “I love you” to myself. I do this every day, when I’m looking at myself in the mirror. Usually, it’s when I’m in the bathroom brushing my teeth, or when I’m getting dressed in my bedroom and looking in the big wall mirror I have by my closet. I’ll pause, take a few breaths, and really look at my reflection in the mirror. Then I will simply say “I love you”. I say it out loud or in silence, whatever I feel like. Sometimes I say it softly, sometimes I say it loudly. Sometimes I smile when I say it, sometimes I make a face. But because it’s so important to remember, I always say it.

This list might look like a lot, but it really isn’t. You can integrate it in any morning routine or in the habits you already have. You don’t have to do all of it either; you can choose what feels right for you and start from there. But whatever you do, I would invite you to try and start your day with thoughts of love for yourself. It will change your life.

  • I think it’s so important to start the day off with a positive outlook and attitude! Great tips!

  • Trisha @foodieawareness

    This is such a great post Murielle! I’m at the stage of trying to get a morning ritual in place and I really appreciate your suggestions. Number 3 is special to me as a person who absolutely love meditation. Anything can be a meditation – even drinking coffee or tea 🙂

    • Oh Trisha I’m so happy with your comment, yes meditation can be anything. It doesn’t need to be this difficult thing you can’t get yourself to doing. It is in all things and always with us. Love it!

  • Emily

    Great blog post! And so fitting that I am reading this when I first wake up (and undeniably grumpy and tired!). I’m definitely going to try some of these things. Thank you! Found you through the Facebook blog Engagement group 🙂


    • Wonderful Emily! And it’s hard to stay grumpy for long when you’re saying “I love you” to yourself. Or at least I hope so 🙂

  • Karen

    Love the idea of enjoying my tea in the Now. Sometimes I want to just rush through my tea. Thank you for the reminder.

    • I have to remind myself of that too, we want to get so much done, but sometimes love lies in the little things.

  • Lovely post! I’m always rushing whilst trying to drink my morning cup of tea, so I love your advice on that!

    • And I love that first one so much, when I rush I’m sad that I did and didn’t take the time to really taste it.

  • Wendie Schneider

    I love love love this post and I absolutely need to incorporate each and every tip you mentioned. Right now I am at 0%.

    • Oh Wendie, thank you for your comment. Just thinking about incorporating this into your morning is showing love for yourself, so definitely not at 0% 🙂

  • Amy

    This is so gorgeous!! I love the ideas and tend to forget to do anything like this in the morning…instead just launching into my day sans intention. Thanks for the great tips. Going to share on Twitter!

    • Thank you for the support Amy! And I’m so happy that you like my tips <3

  • maja

    I’ve had a morning routine for a few years now and it makes such a HUGE difference! I really think it’s a life changer. Great post!

    • Maja that is so great, and yes the difference is so big, I wouldn’t want to go without it anymore!

  • Hil D

    I “have to” change diapers and parent at 5 am, but I do it with a smile on my face, coffee in my hand, and I love yous even while changing poopy diapers that early. Starting out the day positively is so important!

    • Oh Hil yes, and I thought about you and the diapers while I was writing this post. Being positive is so important, it makes a world of difference.

  • These are great ideas! Most people’s mornings are busy, and we forget how important it is to start the day off with a positive attitude. What you do in the morning can make or break your entire day! I’m sharing this Pinterest 🙂

    • Oh thank you Fabiola! And yes it does, that little moment can be so important in shaping your day. But you know, at the same time, when we do get up in a bad mood or aren’t doing so well one day, you get a new chance to do a better job every morning 🙂

  • Shelby Bussard

    Those are great tips 🙂 I am guilty of starting the day off with a negative thought or a groan!

    • Ah Shelby so many of us are, and even when you have things on your to-do list that you’re not really keen on doing, just being loving with yourself can make a huge difference.

  • Bobby V Adkisson

    Very nice! My wife and I have been focusing on bringing more positivity into our lives and this article goes so well with that.Thank you for the tips!

    • Thank you Bobby! I love the idea of not only a self-love routine, but a love routine too.

  • jillconyers

    Murielle I seriously do all of these! Love love the whole list.

  • Marie, tips are just great, but you know…it it’s to make ti if you are a mother of the one-year-old child. I’d like to read how to make it when you child awakes the same time as you so you don’t have a time even to drink a coffee in silence. Kiss, Rahela – http://www.raheladrusko.com

    • Hello Rahela. Thank you so much for your comment. And I have to say, you are right. Yes with a small child that will ask for a lot of attention and love, it is challenging to keep a morning routine. But you know what I love most about self-love? You can find it in the smallest things. How about while you’re taking care of your one-year-old to repeat a love mantra in your mind? Or how about being in the moment with your child, really seeing him or her, and really being there? I know it’s easy to say from afar, and that children don’t always allow you to feel at peace around them either, but there is always a way. Even a smile sometimes is saying I love you… to you.

  • Lil

    What really speaks to me is living intentionally. It’s soooo easy to get caught up in the hurriedness of the day and not take some time to reflect on the values and people that we hold so dear to us.

    • Oh Lil thank you for your comment. Yes we hurry so much that we often forget that we are surrounded by beauty, friendship and love.