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Rediscovering the Excitement in Your Work: A Quick Guide for Bored-Out Creatives
Do you dread going to work in the morning? Do you feel less and less passionate about your job? Do you find yourself daydreaming about a different career path? Are you bored out of your mind just by thinking about your day ahead? If you answered 'yes' to any of these questions, this quick guide is for you.
As a creative person, I understand the struggle of feeling uninspired and unfulfilled at work, especially when you think your skills and talents are underutilized. This can lead to burnout, which can affect your productivity, mental health, and, even worse, sometimes bore-out.
What is bore-out? And are you suffering from it?
Bore-out is a state of chronic boredom and disengagement at work, which can be just as damaging, if not more, than burnout. Many of the creative generalists and entrepreneurial clients I coach suffer from it. It's characterized by a lack of motivation, boredom, and apathy toward work. Unlike burnout, where you may feel overwhelmed with too much work, bore-out stems from not having enough challenging tasks or opportunities to use your skills. This can result in a loss of meaning and purpose in your job.
If this sounds familiar, you might be experiencing bore-out. Of course, leaving your job for something more exciting is always an option. But perhaps you don't want to go because you love what you do and simply lost the spark.
When 'settling' becomes the norm
Sadly, for many people, work is something they endure rather than enjoy. Gradually accepting boring jobs is a silent killer of professional dreams. But why do so many people let this happen? The golden cage, of course, but also the fear of change, a desire for financial stability, or simply not knowing what you want can keep you stuck in the status quo.
The problem with staying in a job that bores the living life out of you is that it has a ripple effect. It impacts your career, mental health, and personal relationships. In my practice, this is often a sign that my client's professional life needs a radical shift - or a career redesign.
The problem is, how do you find inspiration again when you're bored out of your mind? How do you avoid falling into the same trap in the future?
Understanding the spark you've lost
Before I share a few tips with you on rediscovering work excitement, it's essential to understand the reasons behind job bore-out. These can stem from various issues, such as:
Monotony: When your job doesn’t challenge you, and the tasks are repetitive and not complex enough, it’s easy to become disinterested.
Mismatch of skills: If you feel that your talents or skills aren’t being utilized, this can lead to a sense of your capabilities being underutilized, which in turn causes you to feel unfulfilled and bored.
Lack of autonomy: When you don’t have control over your work or decision-making, it can make you feel like you’re not contributing to anything meaningful. This lack of agency can lead to feeling disengaged and uninspired.
Lack of growth opportunities: Without clear paths for career advancement or learning new skills, you may feel stuck in a dead-end job. This can lead to a lack of motivation and interest in your work.
There are more reasons to feel bored at work, but these are some of the more important ones. Now that you understand some of the causes let’s explore a few ways to reconnect with our work and find joy in it again.
How do you rediscover the excitement in your work?
To escape the bore-out cycle without having to quit your job, here are a few tips to help you rekindle your passion and creativity:
Identify the root cause: The first step in overcoming bore-out is understanding why you feel this way. This is usually a long and reflective step when I work with clients. Is it because of a lack of challenging tasks? Are you not using your skills to their full potential? Do you feel like your talents are being wasted? Is your manager not providing enough guidance or support? Once you identify the root cause, finding a solution will be easier.
Set new challenges for yourself: If your job has become too routine and mundane, try setting new challenges yourself. This could be taking on new projects, learning new skills, or volunteering for tasks outside your usual responsibilities. You can do this by yourself or include your colleagues or manager. This will not only make your work more interesting, but it can also help you develop new skills and grow professionally.
Take breaks and disconnect: Being constantly connected to work can lead to burnout or boredom. Taking breaks throughout the day and completely disconnecting from work during your off-hours is essential. This allows your mind to rest and recharge, leading to increased creativity and productivity when you get back to work. Set boundaries and stick to them, even if it means saying "no" to extra work or checking emails during off-hours.
Find meaning in your work: People become bored with their jobs because they don't see the purpose or impact of their work. This is also one of the main reasons people lose motivation. To counter this, try to find meaning in your job by connecting it to a larger goal or purpose. Understand how your role contributes to the well-being of others and the company's mission and vision. Knowing that your work has an impact can help motivate you and make you feel more fulfilled.
Seek out new opportunities: If you've been in your current job for a while, it's natural to feel like you've hit a dead end. However, there are always opportunities for growth and advancement if you seek them out. This could be through networking events, professional development courses, or even applying for new positions within the company. Don't be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone and take on new challenges. It can help reignite your passion for your job and open up new career opportunities.
I help creatives and entrepreneurs get unstuck. This often means that with the work we do together, they transition into new and better careers. But the pursuit of an exciting career doesn't mean you have to quit your job. The path to fulfillment and professional success is not often linear, and change is rarely immediate. Figuring out what a great career is for you is an ongoing journey of self-discovery and growth.
By recognizing the reasons behind your work boredom, addressing your fears and blocks, and actively looking for renewed excitement, you can find joy and purpose in your work again. So keep going. And if you need help, I'm here for you!
Feeling stuck in a career that no longer excites you?
You're not alone. Many creatives and entrepreneurs are looking for a spark in their professional lives. That's why I offer a free coaching session for individuals just like you who are ready to break free from the monotony and rediscover what it means to be truly engaged and fulfilled in your work.
Don't settle for boredom. Explore your potential, redefine your path, and find a new spark in your career. This is your chance to get personalized guidance, gain clarity, and take the first step toward a job that not only pays the bills but excites and inspires you!
Breaking Up With Your Job: When Passion Burns Out and It's Time to Move On
Even though I've been an entrepreneur for over two decades, I know what it feels like to break up with a job. I've had my share of corporate projects and freelancing contracts that stopped lighting me up after a while, and that I simply had to leave.
Leaving a job is a lot like breaking up with someone. At first, it's all fireworks and heart-eyed emojis. But slowly, the magic fizzles, and you can't remember why you fell in love. Maybe your boss is the clingy type who texts you at 3 a.m. with “emergencies,” or perhaps your once-thrilling work has become as monotonous as folding laundry. Whatever the reason, the spark is gone, and you're left wondering how to part ways with a job that you once thought would be your happily ever after.
But, my fellow career explorers and relentless seekers of inspiration and fulfillment, this isn't the end. It's a crossroads that can lead to something new and wonderful. Like a perfect storm, this might just be the nudge you need to guide you toward a path that aligns with you more. The reason you don't like your job anymore might not be because the job has changed. Perhaps it's you who has outgrown it.
I'm here to guide you through the steps of such professional uncoupling. In this article, let's explore how to break up with your job when the passion is gone so you can move forward with your career and find a job you love.
Recognizing it's time for a professional goodbye
When I was in my twenties, I thought I had it all figured out. I was passionate about my work and believed that passion would never fade. I was building my web agency and enjoyed every part of it. But as the years went on, I felt like something was missing. The passion I once had for my work was gone. Then, my parents passed away five weeks apart from each other. It was the final straw that made me realize that I needed a change.
It doesn't need to be a dramatic event like I had to go through, but at some point, something will make us face the cold truth that the job that once felt so exciting now feels like a dead weight chained to our ankles. It's not an easy feeling, especially when you've dedicated time and energy, years in my case, to building something for yourself.
As I mentioned in my book, the breaking point is different for everyone. Maybe your creativity has suffered, or your once-quiet office has become a crowded tearoom where you can't find a minute to think. There could be a number of reasons or a single, clear sign telling you that it's time to move on. The important thing is to listen.
Love the job you're with, or move on?
I know it's a cliché, but there's truth to the saying, "Find a job you love, and you'll never have to work a day in your life." The question is, was that job truly love for you or was it more like a fling? There's no shame in wanting more or seeking a career you're passionate about. You want it in your romantic relationships and deserve it in your professional life, too.
So what now? After you realize that you no longer love the job you're in, where do you go from there? Do you stay or do you go? Thinking about starting over or making a significant career change can be scary and overwhelming. But remember, this is your life, and you deserve to live it fully and passionately. Never let fear stop you from doing something you want to do, and certainly don't let it keep you from pursuing your dreams.
Rekindling the spark - or is it too late?
Sometimes, the love isn't over; it's just hiding, buried under the routine of the daily grind. Perhaps all you need is a little counseling and a professional therapist for your work life. I always tell clients that, before they take the leap, they should reach out to mentors, work with a career coach, and look for opportunities within their current company that may reignite the passion they once felt.
It’s essential to figure out if it's helpful to do the work to fix what's wrong or if the issue is simply irreparable.
The road to career satisfaction is not always straight - often, we take detours. But with perseverance and a willingness to figure out what's wrong, sometimes (not often), it's possible to rekindle the spark you a job you once loved.
Crafting your career path - the friendly breakup
As someone who has been helping creatives and entrepreneurs get unstuck for a decade now, I know how creating a plan for the next steps in your career can feel daunting, like when you decide to "put yourself out there" after a breakup. It’s exciting, invigorating, and scary, especially when you've been in a job that is stressful or bores you out for a long time.
You can start by creating a career roadmap of where you want to be in six months, a year, and three years. What do these milestones look like? What industry or roles are you looking for? You'll need some clarity to take the first step towards your ideal job. (If you need some guidance with this, I can help!)
Make sure that, as you go through with this breakup, you do it amicably. This is the best advice my father ever gave me. Burning bridges means you can never cross the river again, but in our professional lives, the river has more twists and turns than a Tom Clancy novel. Respect your current role, boss, and your colleagues (even if they've been crappy to you, don't leave slamming doors if you can). Give notice, be open about your reasons for leaving, and be willing to help make the transition as smooth as possible (expect if they've been real d*cks with you). How you exit will influence the next chapters of your career, and you want those stories to be ones of grace and dignity.
The post-breakup glow-up - finding that new job!
When you've been under pressure for a long time, knowing you need to do something about your situation while being stuck in overthinking and hesitating, finally breaking up can be liberating. Believe me, I know. I have a few projects (and exes, ahum) that I lingered with for way too long. When you finally cut ties, it's the perfect time to redefine yourself and address the parts of your professional life that no longer serve you.
Take your time with the healing process; take the time to learn and grow from this transition. Use this time to reflect on what you truly want in your career and take steps toward achieving those goals. It could be taking a course, networking with people in the industry you want to enter, or updating your LinkedIn profile.
Remember to stay true to yourself throughout this process. Don't let outside pressure and influences keep you from pursuing what truly makes you happy. This is your journey, and embracing change and finding your passion is a rebellious act that will ultimately lead to personal growth and fulfillment.
The role and benefits of a career coach
Trying to figure out your next career move alone can be challenging. This is where a career coach - like Moi - can play the role of your professional wingman, your relationship advisor for the professional world. A good and experienced career coach can help you assess your skills and passions, identify your career goals, and help create a strategy to find a job you'll love.
As a career coach, I guide my clients in times of uncertainty and change. My path to becoming a career coach wasn't a straight line; it resulted from my journey, trials, lessons, and a desire to change careers and help others do the same. I understand the courage it takes to question the familiar, to stand at the cliff of your future, and dare to dream of more. My approach is deeply personal because I believe each person is unique, and no single blueprint can fit us all.
If you want to know more, I poured everything I learned in the decade I've been doing this work in my book called "Get Unstuck!" Click here to get your copy now.
If you're looking for more personalised support, we can work together one-on-one to explore not just the "what" of your next steps but the "why" and the "how," creating a strategy that aligns with what you want and your deepest values and aspirations. It's more than finding a job; it's about imagining and creating a career that fills your life with purpose and joy.
That job you love is waiting for you, I know because I've been helping people just like you find theirs for ten years now, and I'm here to help you find it too!
Ready to break up with your job and find the career of your dreams?
Many clients experience fear, doubt, and hesitation when considering a career change. But with the right support and guidance, you can break free from the comfortable but unfulfilling job and find a career that truly makes you happy.
Book a free call with me - your career wingman - today and take the first step towards your dream career!
How to Get Unstuck and Overcome Procrastination as a Creative Professional
When I tell people the things I do - and finish! - today, the consensus is that I'm so "productive" and "focused." I can achieve many things in reasonable amounts of time, it’s true, but it hasn't always been this way. In fact, I used to be a massive procrastinator. For anyone, this can be detrimental to success. For creative professionals or entrepreneurs, this can be the main reason they’re not achieving success - something I experienced firsthand early in my career.
But the good news is that it's possible to overcome procrastination and get unstuck. Once I'd figured out how to get unstuck and do things instead of thinking about them, I decided to sell my first business and pivot into a career helping others do the same.
Do you find yourself in an inescapable cycle of procrastination? Good ideas that fizzle out and die, projects that get endlessly delayed, and personal growth that doesn't bring about real change. It's a problem many people struggle with, but only a few know how to find the tools to break free from this self-defeating behavior. And it takes time! But imagine a world where you naturally take action and are free from the misery of procrastination - a life filled with productivity, confidence, achievement, and personal and professional success. I have dedicated the past decade to helping you achieve that vision, and it’s what my new book, "Get Unstuck!" is all about.
Procrastination: the paralyzing habit
Procrastination is more than just a time-wasting activity; it's a habit with different root causes: fear, uncertainty, boredom, or even perfectionism. Procrastination means delaying or postponing tasks that need to be accomplished, even when we know they're important and will benefit us in the long run.
One of the main reasons why procrastination can be so damaging is because it often leads to unnecessary stress and anxiety. When we put off important tasks, they linger in our minds, causing constant guilt and pressure. This can also affect our mental health, leading to feelings of inadequacy and failure. Not to mention the missed opportunities, the projects that don't get done, the relationships that suffer, and the potential income we miss out on.
But why do we procrastinate? Why can't we just get things done when we know they must be done? The truth is, there are many factors at play. From our upbringing, trauma, and past experiences to our current environment and mindset, all of these contribute to our tendency to procrastinate.
Overcoming procrastination: how to get unstuck
The first step towards overcoming procrastination is understanding why we do it. Often, it's not because we're lazy or unmotivated but because we're afraid of failing or making mistakes, question our ability to succeed, or simply don't know where to start. Identifying the root cause of our procrastination is crucial to finding effective solutions.
One common misconception about overcoming procrastination is that it's all about willpower and discipline; as I mention in my book, while these are important factors, they're not the only ones. Relying solely on willpower (a finite resource) and discipline will often lead to temporary success, followed by an even bigger procrastination setback.
Here are some tips on how to get unstuck and overcome procrastination:
Figure out what you really want: We often procrastinate because we don't know what we want. We could do so much, and everything seems exciting and new. Take some time to reflect on your long-term goals and how they align with your current ideas or projects. The more aligned this gets, the easier it will be for you to stay motivated and focused.
Look at the excuses you tell yourself. What is hiding underneath? Are you afraid of failure? Are you unsure of your abilities? A perfectionist? Are you struggling with limiting beliefs or negative experiences? Once you identify the underlying cause, it's easier to address and work on overcoming it. Remember, your fears and doubts are not facts; they're just thoughts you can change.
Don't make a mountain out of a thought: Often, we procrastinate because the task at hand seems too daunting. I tell my clients, "Don't make a mountain out of that thought you just had!" when I see them start to overthink it. It happens often. You start with a simple idea; before you know it, your mind has turned it into this big, scary, and impossible mountain. And, of course, you want to achieve the top with one big step. Realizing how impossible this is, instead of going back to the original idea, you give up on it completely.
Understanding being stuck: identifying your paralysis
Stuckness is the feeling of indecision and paralysis when faced with a challenge or an important task. I often explain what being stuck feels like by using the crossroads metaphor. Imagine standing at a crossroads and having to choose which path to take. But instead of making a decision, you freeze, unable to move or progress. You keep looking left and right or front and back, waiting for clarity on what choice to make. And because that clarity doesn't come, you're paralyzed and stay at the crossroads, contemplating all the options available to you without ever taking a step forward.
Some people stay stuck like this for a long time. I had a client once who came to me after having felt like this for ten years. Ten years! Imagine feeling paralyzed and indecisive for such a long time. But even if you don't stay stuck for that long, the feeling of being stuck can be incredibly frustrating and discouraging. It can make us feel incapable or not good enough to move forward.
But here's the thing: most people associate being stuck with failure when it is a natural part of any growth process. It's like being at the foot of a mountain, looking at its intimidating height and thinking, "I'll never be able to climb that." But once you start taking small steps forward, one after another, you eventually reach the top.
That's why understanding your paralysis is crucial for overcoming it. Identify what is keeping you stuck - fear, self-doubt, lack of direction or resources, not knowing how to start or what to do - and work on addressing those issues. Seek support and guidance from a professional coach like me or trusted friends and family.
Remember, being stuck is a feeling, not a fact. It’s not a sign of weakness or incompetence. It's a temporary state that can be overcome with determination, perseverance, and the right mindset!
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Navigating Entrepreneurial Growing Pains
Have you ever experienced that phenomenon where you are in a really slow season of your business, begging the Universe to provide you with more opportunities to grow, and then all of a sudden every available opportunity hits at once? You’re so excited for the chance to do business and show off your skills, so you say yes to everything, working yourself to the bone trying to hit all your deadlines on time, but then you finish and need a month or two of rest to recover.
Me too.
Since starting my entrepreneurial journey, I’ve had a hard time enjoying the fruits of all my hard work. I’d spend so much time setting up trying to drum up business without seeing any results. Then all of a sudden, the business opportunities would fly in and I’d be completely overwhelmed. I often felt like a chicken with my head cut off, running around with no sustainable strategy for how to get all this work done without burning out.
In the years since, I’ve tried many tools to get through these busy seasons without burning out, but the ones that worked the best, that have continued to work for me, are the ones that seem counterintuitive. When I’m in my busiest season, the best thing I can do is slow down and take a breath. Even now, when I’m busier than ever, I struggle to manage my time without taking a moment to pause and reflect.
By pausing, I’m able to create a strategy for this particular busy season that allows me to thrive. Here are a few of the strategies that help me manage the growing pains, both personally and in my business:
Identify your vision and mission. All businesses start with a vision, whether it’s a vision of your personal future or the future of your company. When we’re in our busy seasons, we can lose focus of what it is we set out to do when we started our entrepreneurial endeavors. By setting aside time to refocus on the purpose behind our businesses or projects, and what we hope to get out of it, we’re better able to set boundaries and stave off overwhelm.
Create your ideal team. When your business is growing and you’re struggling to meet demand, building a solid team around you is one of the best things you can do to alleviate stress. But great teams are not created accidentally. It takes time, patience, and a want to surround yourself with people you can effectively manage and interact with. That’s why it’s important to work on this when things aren’t busy. But if you haven’t, don’t fall into the trap of not doing it when you need it most! Once your ideal team is assembled, fervent energy manifests and stress dissipates, leaving only creative approaches to handling your growing pains.
Learn to delegate. Entrepreneurs and small business owners usually strike out on their own because they want to be their own boss. And when you have spent time working for yourself, doing all the tasks, and only having to hold yourself accountable, you can forget to delegate when things get busy. Look for support based on individual skills and expertise. Take advantage of it, let go of trying to do everything yourself, and the growing pains will be easier to navigate (and you’ll *finally* learn to delegate!).
Build strategy and SOPs early on. It’s important to have strategy and standard operating procedures in place prior to, or at least at the beginning of, the busy season to help prevent growing pains from stalling your work. I hired Alex recently, a new and amazing Chief of Staff. It's been a good year since I knew I had to find support to be able to navigate my growing business. So I’d started recording weekly marketing and communications tasks using Loom. When Alex came on board a few weeks ago, she had a (albeit small) library of SOPs to get her going.
Letting go of growth and being okay with it. There’s this pressure in business that makes it seem like every idea, every project, needs to be striving for maximum growth. But what if you don’t want maximum growth? What if you’re content with where your business is and not enjoying the experience of growing pains? It’s okay to sit back and relax into the comfort of where you are right now. Also, a company can be a company of one and be very successful. There’s an amazing book by Paul Jarvis that speaks exactly to that. If staying lean and free of the burden of growth is your goal, I recommend you read it.
Life as an entrepreneur is always exciting. There’s always an opportunity for growth, both personally and professionally. They give you a chance to dig deep and push yourself to identify what systems are working for you, what isn’t necessary for success, and help you see what needs to evolve and what can be let go.
Overwhelmed by too many opportunities?
The five steps above sound easy to some entrepreneurs, but for most they might find it difficult to take that pause. In the past 25 years, I’ve experienced similar issues, both in my own work and in my client’s. This is why I became a certified career and business coach: I wanted my clients to navigate building and growing businesses and projects with ease and flow, and without the overwhelm.
You deserve an opportunity to see your company grow and not feel overwhelmed or stressed. In our coaching sessions, we will dive deep into how to grow your business successfully, your vision and mission for it, and how we can get you there feeling confident and fulfilled.
How to Beat Imposter Syndrome When Thinking About Changing Careers.
"Will I be able to do this?", "I think I need to study for it first," "I don't think I have the right cv." I often hear similar questions and concerns when talking to clients about their career dreams in my coaching practice. Even though they have years of experience, a natural capacity for problem-solving, a hunger for knowledge, and no problems with learning new things, these bright, creative souls feel like they're not good enough to pursue what they truly want in their careers.
It's not uncommon. I've suffered from impostor syndrome my entire life. I still do, even though it's much better than it used to be. Perhaps you've experienced this too. Many of us feel insecure when thinking about changing careers. We doubt our abilities and are scared of failing at something that we don't know how to do yet. Some of this fear is a natural part of the process of change. Stepping into the unknown is always a little scary. It gets tricky when fear becomes a more pervasive, debilitating feeling of insecurity and lack of confidence. That's when imposter syndrome can set in. When this happens, we need to take a step back and reassess the situation because what stops us from changing careers is not a real lack of capabilities but imagined shortcomings.
What is impostor syndrome?
Impostor Syndrome is a phenomenon where we feel like impostors or frauds despite having achieved success. It's an internal experience of intellectual phoniness, an incapacity to internalize our accomplishments and all the goals we have already achieved. We second-guess ourselves, worry that people will soon find out that we're not good at what we say we are, that we're just frauds waiting to be discovered. People with impostor syndrome often attribute their successes to luck rather than skill, talent, or hard work. Impostor syndrome is more prevalent among women, but men experience it too. Recent studies show that it hits minority groups harder.
Impostor syndrome can cause feelings of fear, anxiety, and even depression if left unchecked. In my practice, I see how it stops many talented creatives and entrepreneurs from going after what they truly want. Some will go to great length in order to avoid “being found out”, like saying no to interesting opportunities or promotions. Instead of allowing themselves to explore their dreams, they stick to what's safe and familiar. Even then, they feel it's only a matter of time before they'll be found out.
Where does impostor syndrome come from?
Impostor Syndrome has much to do with the messages we grew up with and our internalized beliefs about ourselves. When we make significant changes in our lives, these negative messages can resurface as fear, doubt, and insecurity. It's possible that somewhere in our past, someone made us feel like we weren't good enough or capable of succeeding at something new.
Another reason we suffer from impostor syndrome is that we compare ourselves to others and think their success is the result of innate talent rather than the hard work they've put in. This can lead to a feeling of inadequacy, especially if we believe that others have it all figured out and don't suffer from the same stress and anxiety that we suffer from. They do, and they struggle just as much with impostor syndrome and all the feelings of self-doubt that come along with it.
There's nothing wrong with feeling scared or insecure when taking on something new, but you don't have to believe those negative thoughts that come with it. Instead, focus on the skills and experience you have and the exciting opportunities available to you. The most important thing is to recognize it for what it is: a feeling, not necessarily reality.
Another thing that I heard about impostor syndrome recently comes from Shahroo Izadi. In an interview with Steven Bartlett for The Diary of a CEO podcast, she had an exciting idea about where impostor syndrome comes from.
Shahroo is an anti-diet advocate and someone who has overcome an eating disorder and works with people suffering from addictions. People with mental illness, addiction, or an eating disorder have a lot of shame and guilt about their behavior. Because of this, it's difficult for them to acknowledge their professional accomplishments because many feel ashamed about so many other things that they won't allow themselves to internalize their capacities.
I want to extrapolate that based on what I see in my practice and the many stories from my own life and that of my clients. We all have things we're ashamed of and feel guilty about; it might be something we're doing - or thinking (and this is important) when nobody's watching, we all have secrets about who we truly think we are. And we’re absolutely terrified of people finding out!
We carry these secrets with us everywhere, and sometimes even if on a superficial level, we've achieved a lot, and everything looks great. Inside, it's hard for us to accept our successes because of these inner feelings of guilt and shame.
What's the impact of impostor syndrome on your career?
Impostor Syndrome can significantly impact your career. It can make you doubt yourself and prevent you from taking risks or trying new things. You might feel like you're not qualified for the job, that someone else could do it better than you, or that people will soon find out that you're not good at what you do.
On the other end of that spectrum, impostor syndrome can also force you to uphold the highest standards for yourself, to suffer from perfectionism, and to deliver more than is expected of you consistently. This, too, will be detrimental to your career success because it's unsustainable in the long term and because by being so perfect, you're making yourself indispensable in the position you're in. If there's one thing I know about career advancement is that you have to make yourself replaceable to be promoted, not irreplaceable.
How to beat imposter syndrome when you want to change careers?
The first step is recognizing what impostor syndrome looks like in your life. Are you an overachiever? A perfectionist with impossible standards to achieve? Ask yourself: What thoughts am I having? Are they coming from a place of self-doubt or fear? What do I need to feel confident and empowered to make this transition?
Once you have identified the root problems, start challenging those thoughts. Acknowledge your accomplishments and successes, even if they seem minor. Take inventory of your skills and experience. Think about the past jobs or projects you've completed, and list what knowledge or skills were gained from them. You may have more transferable skills than you think! Focus on what makes you unique and different from others in the field - anything from foreign language proficiency to specialized technical expertise.
Talk to a trusted friend, mentor, or coach about what you're going through and get their perspective and advice. You don't need to doubt yourself alone; it's one of the reasons the impostor syndrome has so much power over us because we don't share about it enough! Be proactive and reach out for help; it could be the push you need to make the career transition.
Finally, take small steps toward your career goals. Try to do only a little at once - break it down into manageable tasks on which you can start taking action right away. Make sure you celebrate each milestone and reward yourself after completing each task. It's important to recognize and celebrate your progress; this will build your confidence and make it easier to take more risks and move forward with your career.
Start beating impostor syndrome right now.
One thing that I advise all my clients to keep is a "brag list." Since most of them suffer from impostor syndrome or feel like they're not good enough, this simple exercise isn't easy. It might be challenging for you too. On a piece of paper or a note on your computer or smartphone, make a list of all your accomplishments, big or small. Keep the list up to date by adding anything you achieve throughout your days and weeks, no matter how small.
You must list everything you've done. It could be anything from standing up for yourself, getting noticed during a meeting because you spoke up, talking about your business idea to someone, volunteering in the community, mastering a new skill or hobby, etc. Whenever impostor syndrome creeps in and doubts start to swirl around in your head, take a look at your list and remind yourself of all the success you've achieved. Celebrate these wins, and remember that you can keep achieving greatness!
Impostor Syndrome is a widespread experience. So many talented and capable people suffer from it, but it doesn't need to hold you back from changing careers or achieving your goals. You've got this! Good luck!
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You Deserve to Love Your Job: Here's How to Make it Happen (And Avoid Job Regret)
So many people think it's normal to hate their job. They slog through their days, feeling drained and unhappy. Eventually, they regret starting a job; or resigning for something new like so many people did during the “great resignation”. They thought a new job would be great and now dread coming to work each day, like 72% of young workers, according to a recent survey on “shift shock”. They stay in jobs they dislike because they don't think they deserve better. But that's not true! You deserve to love your job, and it is possible to make that happen. This article will discuss why so many people dislike their jobs or experience job regret and how you can leave or change your job to get one you love. We'll also talk about creating a career that is right for you and makes you happy!
What is job regret?
Job regret is a feeling of dissatisfaction or disappointment with a job you have taken. It can be caused by anything from salary and benefits to work environment, hours, and coworkers. Job regret is usually the result of taking a job without carefully considering all factors that could make it an undesirable position. It may also occur when expectations are unmet, or something changes in your life (like a move or a change in a family situation) that makes your current job no longer ideal for you.
Creatives and entrepreneurs (and creative generalists especially) are prone to experiencing job regret. There are a few reasons for it:
A lack of clarity about what type of job would suit them best
Unrealistic expectations for their career
Feeling like they don't belong in the corporate world
Not fully understanding what it takes to transition from one field or role to another successfully.
It's essential to recognize that feeling dissatisfied with your job isn't something to be ashamed of — it happens! It's how you handle the situation that matters. Let's explore.
You're allowed to love your job!
A wonderful client of mine, let's call her Julietta, was stuck in a job she hated. She was stressed out, unfulfilled, and desperately wanted something different. But despite her unhappiness, she stayed in the position because she felt she didn't deserve anything better. During one of her coaching sessions, Julietta cried and told me how frustrated she was with her job. Then, she asked: "Murielle, am I allowed to love my job?"
That question took my breath away. I've heard many things in almost a decade of being a career and business coach, and even though I know many people wonder about the same thing as Julietta, it was the first time someone had put it into words.
My answer was clear: "Yes, Julietta (and that goes for you as well), you are allowed to love your job!" In fact, it is your right to have a job that makes you happy. You don't have to stay stuck in a job that sucks the life out of you and doesn't fulfill you professionally or personally. Just hearing those words gave Julietta the permission she needed to take action. She started exploring other career options and eventually found one she was passionate about. Now, instead of dreading Mondays, she looks forward to starting her workweek.
Why do we think it's normal to hate our jobs?
In that same session, I asked Julietta why she thought that it was normal for people to hate their jobs, and for her, in particular, to be OK with that, and after some reflection, we uncovered a few reasons:
She had been told by society that it was normal to hate your job, so she accepted it as her fate.
She wasn't sure how to find a job that made her happy or how to create one for herself.
She didn't want to disappoint her father, who wanted her to have a "stable" job with a good salary.
She felt ashamed to admit that she wanted more from life than the 9-to-5 grind offered.
She was afraid of change.
These are all common reasons why many people stay stuck in jobs they don't love. But there is an alternative. It's easy to think that you don't deserve better, but that's not the case. You deserve to love your job, and it is possible to make that happen! What kind of life would it be if we simply had to accept the status quo and never aim for something better? Because that is why so many of us think we have to settle for jobs we don't like: because we've been taught that's the way things are, and it's easier to stay stuck than to go against the grain or strive for something better.
How to make your job more enjoyable
If you're unhappy in your current position, it doesn't mean you should quit. Perhaps you enjoy parts of your job, and you're looking for ways to make it more enjoyable. Here are some tips:
Speak up about the issues you have. If something isn't working for you at your job (like hours, workload, salary), talk to your supervisor about it and see if anything can be done to improve it.
Create goals and milestones for yourself. Setting goals and milestones can help you stay motivated and focused on the bigger picture. It can also help you track your progress and feel proud of your accomplishments.
Find ways to enjoy the work you do. If tasks don't interest or energize you, find ways to make them more enjoyable – listen to music, take short breaks often, or have friendly competitions with your colleagues.
Identify the tasks that drain your energy and focus on delegating or eliminating them. Ask yourself which activities you can delegate to someone else or eliminate.
Recognize and reward your accomplishments. Celebrate the wins, no matter how small. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done, and use these moments as reminders of why you do what you do.
Changing jobs or creating your own career path
So, let's talk about the practical steps for making this happen for you. To start with, if you're in a job that you hate and are ready to leave it, there are some things that you can do to make sure you get the best outcome:
Start by figuring out what you need and want in your next job. Make a list of the things that would make you happy, such as working from home, having flexible hours, etc.
Update your resume and apply for jobs that fit this description.
Reach out to people in industries or positions you're interested in and ask them questions about their work and experiences. This will give you a better understanding of what options are available to you.
Use networking opportunities to connect with potential employers and expand your professional network.
Finally, take risks! Don't be afraid to try something new or step outside of your comfort zone - it
Finding a job you love
The activities of the previous point are a good starting point for finding a job you love. The next step to take is understanding what makes you passionate. This can be anything from wanting more freedom in your career, or being able to have an impact on the world around you. Your passions (especially if you're a creative generalist, a creative, or an entrepreneur) will help guide you toward a career that aligns with your values and makes you happy. Once you know what drives and excites you, then it's time to start exploring different job opportunities. You don't have to stay stuck in the same cycle of unhappiness – there are plenty of resources for finding jobs that make you happy.
Finding a job you love is possible, but it requires some work. Here are some tips for finding or creating the job of your dreams:
Get clear on what makes you happy and fulfilled professionally. What kind of work do you enjoy? What makes you feel energized? What type of environment do you want to be in? Take some time to reflect on these questions and write down your answers.
Do your research and explore different industries, roles, and companies that could fit with what you are looking for. Networking can also help open doors and get you in contact with potential employers.
When applying or interviewing for jobs, be sure to ask the right questions about culture, roles, and responsibilities. You must get a good understanding of what the job is really like, so you can make an informed decision.
If a traditional job isn't working out for you, consider creating your own career path by freelancing or starting a business. This will give you more control over your work, and you can create something that aligns with your passions and values.
Remember to take care of yourself during this process! Changing careers is hard work, and staying motivated and pushing forward is essential even when things seem harsh. Take some time to relax and recharge to remain focused on your goals.
Creating a career that is right for you
If the traditional 9-to-5 job isn't working out, or if you have a hard time finding the right job, then why not create a career that fits your passions and lifestyle? The possibilities are endless! As a coach, I love to help clients create careers that are tailored to their unique skills, interests, and values.
Here are some steps you can take for creating a career that is uniquely yours:
Get clear on your passions, skills, and values – what do you enjoy doing? What unique experiences or qualifications do you have? What drives and excites you? Take the time to understand who You could become a consultant, start an online business, or go freelance. You can also be creative in how you make money – try teaching classes, selling products or services, or even writing books. There are plenty of ways to make money while doing something you love.
Develop an action plan. What steps do you need to take to reach your goals? This could include creating a website, networking with potential clients, or researching the market.
Build relationships for support. Working for yourself can be isolating, so it's important to find community and collaboration opportunities that will help motivate and inspire you along the way. A mentor, colleagues, or friends can provide valuable advice and guidance as you pursue your dreams.
Take action! The most important part of creating a career is taking consistent action toward your goals. Even if it's just one small step each day – take the plunge and start doing something every day to get closer to achieving what you want.
Stay flexible. Creating a career for yourself is an ever-evolving process, and staying open to new opportunities and changes along the way is essential. Don't be afraid to pivot or adjust your plans if needed – it's all part of the journey!
The key takeaway here is that no matter what job you have, it's important to take steps toward creating a career that makes you feel fulfilled and energized each day. When we love our jobs, we can show up and do our best work. So take the time to explore, research, and plan out your career path – you're sure to find something that suits you perfectly!
Happy exploring! :)
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Take Control of Your Professional Life: 10 Ways to Create Your Own Career (Even if it Doesn't Exist Yet)
Are you endlessly scrolling job boards, looking for the one job that will spark joy? (Sorry, I meant "fulfillment.") Are you tired of your dead-end job? Do you feel stuck in a rut and don't know what to do? If this sounds like you, know that you're not alone. Creative generalists especially can have a hard time finding work that suits them. I talk to creatives and entrepreneurs who feel like this every day, and they tell me they feel lost and don't know where to turn. Well, I've got some excellent news for you! You can create your own career now!
There are more opportunities than ever before to be your own boss, set your own hours, and make a good living doing something you love. With the Internet, there is a world of information and resources at your fingertips.
The truth is, it's pretty easy to create your own career. With some creativity and elbow grease, you can be well on your way to having the job of your dreams. The way I love to approach it is like a detective. Imagine Columbo or Monk investigating a scene. They take in all the clues and use them to figure out what happened.
In this case, the clues are your skills, experience, talents, and interests. By taking inventory of these things, you can get a clear picture of what kind of career would be a dream come true for you. Let's say you're good with people and love music history. A career as a music journalist or a publicist for a record label might be a good fit. If you're more of a people person and love to be in the thick of things, a career in event planning or human resources might be more your speed. Use your imagination, think outside the box, and don't get bogged down in the details.
It's your career, so you decide
The beauty of creating your own career is that there are no rules. You can be as creative as you want, and there's no wrong answer. Since I've been doing this work with clients, I've seen many people create unlikely careers for themselves:
A professional dog walker and a spiritual teacher who created a successful business walking dogs mindfully.
A high school teacher and a beehive removal specialist who created a business teaching people how to remove negative energy from their homes.
A yoga teacher and a web designer who created a business designing consciousness-infused websites for stressed-out small business owners.
A massage therapist and a baker who created a mobile spa business bringing massages and freshly baked goods to people's homes.
The list goes on and on, and the opportunities are endless. But, like with everything worthwhile, it takes time and effort to create what will be uniquely right for you. In this article, I'll share the ten best tips to get you started creating your own career, even if it doesn't exist yet. Because you know what? You can make it for yourself!
Ten ways to take control of your professional life and create your own unique career (even if it doesn't exist yet)
#1 Dream big
Don't stop yourself by thinking about the jobs that exist or that you know about; instead, let your mind run wild with possibilities. The first step is to dream as big as possible without censoring yourself. What do you want your career to be? What are your goals and aspirations? What are you good at? What do people always come to you for help with? What have you done in the past that you loved or were successful in? How can you combine those things into a new career for yourself? Once you have a clear idea of the career you want to create, you can start taking steps to make it happen.
#2 Do your research
The next step is to do your research. Once you know what you want, especially if it's a career that doesn't exist yet, it's time to find out if there's a demand for it. If you want to be a professional dog walker for circus dogs, for example, you'll need to research the market in your area to see if there are enough clients to support you. If you're looking to start your own event planning business for female writers, you'll need to research whether or not there's a need and demand for that in your community. Knowing your niche(s) and understanding the market you'll be working in is essential. By doing your research, find out about the competition and what they're doing that's working (or not working). The Internet is an excellent resource for this kind of research, but remember good old-fashioned library books and talking to people in the know.
#3 Get creative
Now it's time to get creative and start putting together a plan. This is where you'll need to use your imagination and think outside the box. If you want to be a professional dog walker but want to add your own little sass to it, you'll need to come up with combinations that don't exist yet. What other services can you offer? What other areas can you target? How can you make your business unique? What things can you combine into a unique new business? This is the fun part; it's about combining talents and interests that make you happy, so take your time and enjoy the process.
#4 Set some goals
Once you have a plan, it's time to set some goals. If your goal is to be a cookie-baking massage therapist, for example, you might set a goal to land five new clients in the next month. Or, if you're starting your own event planning sing-along business, your plan might be to book two events in the next six months. Whatever your goals are, make sure they're realistic and achievable and that you have a timeline for reaching them. Don't be afraid to adjust your goals as you go, and remember to celebrate each milestone along the way! This will help you stay focused and on track as you work to create your new career.
#5 Get some experience
If you want to know if your unique career idea will work, it's always a good idea to get some experience first. To find out if people will be into cookie-baking massages, offer the service free to a few friends and see what they think. Or, if you're thinking of starting your own event planning business, offer to help with a friend's writing party. This will not only give you some valuable experience, but it will also help you fine-tune your skills. And, if you're unsure if your idea is viable, it's always better to find out sooner rather than later.
#6 Make some connections
Another critical step in creating your own career is to make some connections. Talk to people already doing what you want or are in a related field. Ask them for advice and guidance. Make sure to expand your network weekly, if not daily. Get involved in your community and attend events related to your industry. These people can provide invaluable information and insights and help you avoid some of the mistakes they made when they started. You never know; they might even be willing to mentor you or give you a few tips. By making connections, you'll gain valuable insights and start to build a network of support that will be essential as you launch your new career.
#7 Start small
You don't have to go all in from the very beginning. Start small and gradually build your new skills into a new career, business or practice. This also means you only need a little to get started, not even a website. What you need most is a good idea, creativity, and the willingness to work hard. Once you have those things, you can start working on your new career one step at a time. This way, you can ensure you're doing what you love before quitting your day job and going all-in. Once you've built up a solid clientele or following, then you can start thinking about expanding.
#8 Pitch yourself to companies
Once you're clear on the unique flavor you want to bring to your new career; you're ready to pitch your new job to companies. Even if you're not looking for a traditional job, there are still plenty of ways to get your foot in the door. You can start by reaching out to companies that align with your values and interests and see if they have any opportunities for someone with your skillset. You can also look for internships or apprenticeships, allowing you to learn more about the industry and gain valuable experience. Or, and this is the most fun thing to do, you can try and sell them on your career idea. I help my clients do this all the time, and it works!
#9 Be prepared to hustle
Creating your own career is not for the faint of heart. It takes hard work, dedication, and a bit of hustle. Because your job is so new, you might need to teach companies about what you do and how you can help them. You'll also need to be prepared to market yourself and your work and to sell your services to prospective clients or the companies you'd like to work for. But if you're willing to work, you can create a successful and sustainable career that you love.
#10 Be patient, persistent, and believe in yourself
Creating your own career takes time and effort, so keep going even if you don't see results immediately. Remember that you're bringing something new and that people need time to accept what they don't know. You'll need to sell it to them, again and again, before they finally catch on. Be patient, be persistent, and most importantly, believe in yourself. If you don't believe in what you're doing, no one else will.
By following these steps, you'll be well on your way to achieving your goals and living the life you've always wanted. So, what are you waiting for? Create your own unique career today!
Feeling unfulfilled and underutilised in your career?
You're not alone. A lot of people feel like they're stuck in a job that's not right for them. But what if there was a way to create a career that doesn't exist yet but is perfectly right for you? That's what I help my clients do – find their true calling and make a life they love.
Imagine waking up every day feeling excited to go to work because you know it's going to be an adventure. That's the kind of life I help my clients create – one where they're using their creativity and skills to make a difference in the world. Are you ready for something new?