Take Control of Your Professional Life: 10 Ways to Create Your Own Career (Even if it Doesn't Exist Yet)

Are you endlessly scrolling job boards, looking for the one job that will spark joy? (Sorry, I meant "fulfillment.") Are you tired of your dead-end job? Do you feel stuck in a rut and don't know what to do? If this sounds like you, know that you're not alone. Creative generalists especially can have a hard time finding work that suits them. I talk to creatives and entrepreneurs who feel like this every day, and they tell me they feel lost and don't know where to turn. Well, I've got some excellent news for you! You can create your own career now!

There are more opportunities than ever before to be your own boss, set your own hours, and make a good living doing something you love. With the Internet, there is a world of information and resources at your fingertips.

The truth is, it's pretty easy to create your own career. With some creativity and elbow grease, you can be well on your way to having the job of your dreams. The way I love to approach it is like a detective. Imagine Columbo or Monk investigating a scene. They take in all the clues and use them to figure out what happened.

In this case, the clues are your skills, experience, talents, and interests. By taking inventory of these things, you can get a clear picture of what kind of career would be a dream come true for you. Let's say you're good with people and love music history. A career as a music journalist or a publicist for a record label might be a good fit. If you're more of a people person and love to be in the thick of things, a career in event planning or human resources might be more your speed. Use your imagination, think outside the box, and don't get bogged down in the details. 

It's your career, so you decide

The beauty of creating your own career is that there are no rules. You can be as creative as you want, and there's no wrong answer. Since I've been doing this work with clients, I've seen many people create unlikely careers for themselves: 

• A professional dog walker and a spiritual teacher who created a successful business walking dogs mindfully.

• A high school teacher and a beehive removal specialist who created a business teaching people how to remove negative energy from their homes.

• A yoga teacher and a web designer who created a business designing consciousness-infused websites for stressed-out small business owners.

• A massage therapist and a baker who created a mobile spa business bringing massages and freshly baked goods to people's homes.

The list goes on and on, and the opportunities are endless. But, like with everything worthwhile, it takes time and effort to create what will be uniquely right for you. In this article, I'll share the ten best tips to get you started creating your own career, even if it doesn't exist yet. Because you know what? You can make it for yourself!

Ten ways to take control of your professional life and create your own unique career (even if it doesn't exist yet)

#1 Dream big

Don't stop yourself by thinking about the jobs that exist or that you know about; instead, let your mind run wild with possibilities. The first step is to dream as big as possible without censoring yourself. What do you want your career to be? What are your goals and aspirations? What are you good at? What do people always come to you for help with? What have you done in the past that you loved or were successful in? How can you combine those things into a new career for yourself? Once you have a clear idea of the career you want to create, you can start taking steps to make it happen.

#2 Do your research

The next step is to do your research. Once you know what you want, especially if it's a career that doesn't exist yet, it's time to find out if there's a demand for it. If you want to be a professional dog walker for circus dogs, for example, you'll need to research the market in your area to see if there are enough clients to support you. If you're looking to start your own event planning business for female writers, you'll need to research whether or not there's a need and demand for that in your community. Knowing your niche(s) and understanding the market you'll be working in is essential. By doing your research, find out about the competition and what they're doing that's working (or not working). The Internet is an excellent resource for this kind of research, but remember good old-fashioned library books and talking to people in the know.

#3 Get creative

Now it's time to get creative and start putting together a plan. This is where you'll need to use your imagination and think outside the box. If you want to be a professional dog walker but want to add your own little sass to it, you'll need to come up with combinations that don't exist yet. What other services can you offer? What other areas can you target? How can you make your business unique? What things can you combine into a unique new business? This is the fun part; it's about combining talents and interests that make you happy, so take your time and enjoy the process.

#4 Set some goals

Once you have a plan, it's time to set some goals. If your goal is to be a cookie-baking massage therapist, for example, you might set a goal to land five new clients in the next month. Or, if you're starting your own event planning sing-along business, your plan might be to book two events in the next six months. Whatever your goals are, make sure they're realistic and achievable and that you have a timeline for reaching them. Don't be afraid to adjust your goals as you go, and remember to celebrate each milestone along the way! This will help you stay focused and on track as you work to create your new career.

#5 Get some experience

If you want to know if your unique career idea will work, it's always a good idea to get some experience first. To find out if people will be into cookie-baking massages, offer the service free to a few friends and see what they think. Or, if you're thinking of starting your own event planning business, offer to help with a friend's writing party. This will not only give you some valuable experience, but it will also help you fine-tune your skills. And, if you're unsure if your idea is viable, it's always better to find out sooner rather than later.

#6 Make some connections

Another critical step in creating your own career is to make some connections. Talk to people already doing what you want or are in a related field. Ask them for advice and guidance. Make sure to expand your network weekly, if not daily. Get involved in your community and attend events related to your industry. These people can provide invaluable information and insights and help you avoid some of the mistakes they made when they started. You never know; they might even be willing to mentor you or give you a few tips. By making connections, you'll gain valuable insights and start to build a network of support that will be essential as you launch your new career.

#7 Start small

You don't have to go all in from the very beginning. Start small and gradually build your new skills into a new career, business or practice. This also means you only need a little to get started, not even a website. What you need most is a good idea, creativity, and the willingness to work hard. Once you have those things, you can start working on your new career one step at a time. This way, you can ensure you're doing what you love before quitting your day job and going all-in. Once you've built up a solid clientele or following, then you can start thinking about expanding.

#8 Pitch yourself to companies

Once you're clear on the unique flavor you want to bring to your new career; you're ready to pitch your new job to companies. Even if you're not looking for a traditional job, there are still plenty of ways to get your foot in the door. You can start by reaching out to companies that align with your values and interests and see if they have any opportunities for someone with your skillset. You can also look for internships or apprenticeships, allowing you to learn more about the industry and gain valuable experience. Or, and this is the most fun thing to do, you can try and sell them on your career idea. I help my clients do this all the time, and it works!

#9 Be prepared to hustle

Creating your own career is not for the faint of heart. It takes hard work, dedication, and a bit of hustle. Because your job is so new, you might need to teach companies about what you do and how you can help them. You'll also need to be prepared to market yourself and your work and to sell your services to prospective clients or the companies you'd like to work for. But if you're willing to work, you can create a successful and sustainable career that you love.

#10 Be patient, persistent, and believe in yourself

Creating your own career takes time and effort, so keep going even if you don't see results immediately. Remember that you're bringing something new and that people need time to accept what they don't know. You'll need to sell it to them, again and again, before they finally catch on. Be patient, be persistent, and most importantly, believe in yourself. If you don't believe in what you're doing, no one else will.

By following these steps, you'll be well on your way to achieving your goals and living the life you've always wanted. So, what are you waiting for? Create your own unique career today!

Feeling unfulfilled and underutilised in your career?

You're not alone. A lot of people feel like they're stuck in a job that's not right for them. But what if there was a way to create a career that doesn't exist yet but is perfectly right for you? That's what I help my clients do – find their true calling and make a life they love.

Imagine waking up every day feeling excited to go to work because you know it's going to be an adventure. That's the kind of life I help my clients create – one where they're using their creativity and skills to make a difference in the world. Are you ready for something new?

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The Great Resignation: What to do if You're Ready to Quit Your Job

You might have heard about the Great Resignation, also known as the Big Quit and the Great Reshuffle. This massive wave of people quitting their jobs and looking for something better or a different way of life is an ongoing economic trend in which employees have voluntarily resigned from their jobs en masse. And it all started at the beginning of 2021. 

Statistics point towards the younger generations as the biggest resignation group, but they're not alone. According to Wikipedia, possible causes include wage stagnation amid the rising cost of living, long-lasting job dissatisfaction, safety concerns of the COVID-19 pandemic, and the desire to work for companies with better remote-working policies. An overall sense of dissatisfaction, a lack of purpose, and too little pay for shitty jobs make people want to explore new options. As a business and career coach, I've long seen this wave coming (it really didn’t start with the pandemic!), but everything accelerated with covid and the lockdowns.

This article is for people feeling the resignation itch and ready to quit jobs. It starts by briefly exploring the reasons why this resignation wave might be going on (without trying to be exhaustive as this is an incredibly complex socio-economic phenomenon) and continues by offering some tips and insights on how to best surf the wave and what to do if you're ready to quit your job.

What's wrong with work?

Work has been in crisis for a very long time. For the last decades, we've seen a slow and steady erosion of the social contract between employer and employee. In the past, companies offered workers stability and security for their loyalty and hard work. But now, that social contract has all but disappeared. Companies are no longer loyal to their employees – they're only interested in short-term profits. And as a result, employees have become increasingly disposable. If you don't like your job, or if you're not working hard enough, or if you're not making enough money, then there are a million other people who would gladly take your place. This is especially true during economic downturns when jobs are scarce, and competition for jobs is fierce.

In addition, the traditional career path – working your way up the ladder at one company until you retire – is no longer guaranteed. In today's economy, jobs are often temporary and insecure. And even if you have a secure job, there's no guarantee that it will be exciting or fulfilling. So it's no wonder that so many people are quitting their jobs. They're tired of being treated like commodities, and they're tired of work that isn't worthwhile.

The Great Resignation is also a response to the changing nature of work. We now live in a hyper-specialized world, where workers are expected to do a limited type of work. This is especially true in the knowledge economy, where workers are often nothing more than cogs in a machine. They're not allowed to use their creativity or their intelligence, and they're not given the opportunity to grow. This can be incredibly frustrating, (especially for creative generalists) and it's one of the main reasons many people quit their jobs.

What makes people want to quit?

As I mentioned before, there are many reasons why people might want to quit their jobs. But here are some of the most common ones:

#1 Lack of purpose

The first reason I see clients come to me for a career change is the lack of purpose that many people feel in their work. Jobs have become increasingly specialized, and while this has its advantages, it also means that people (particularly creative generalists or multi-passionate creatives) often spend their days doing things they don't care about or don't make them feel good. This can be incredibly frustrating and is one of the main reasons people are looking for something new.

#2 Low pay (for shitty jobs)

The second reason I see clients being dissatisfied is that many jobs don't pay enough. This has always been a problem, but it's becoming more and more acute as the cost of living continues to rise while wages remain stagnant. Add to this that many low-paying jobs are among the shittiest, and you've got a resignation wave waiting to happen.

#3 Boring and unfulfilling jobs

The third reason clients tell me they want to change careers is because they are dissatisfied with their jobs. Part of this is due to the reasons I've already mentioned, but it's also because we're becoming increasingly aware of the options out there. With the internet and social media, it's easier than ever to see what other people are doing with their lives, and this can often make our own lives seem small, boring, and unfulfilling by comparison.

#4 Lack of challenges and inspiration

The fourth reason I see clients change careers (or start a business of their own) is that they feel they're not being challenged enough at work. They're only allowed to bring a small part of their talents to work, but nothing else. Especially for (multi-passionate) creatives and entrepreneurs, this can be challenging. They want to be able to create, experiment and play, but their jobs often don't allow it.

#5 Toxic environments and being squeezed like lemons

The fifth most common reason I see people resign and change careers is when they're faced with toxic environments or are under such pressure to perform that they're being squeezed like lemons. Unfortunately, this is becoming increasingly common as organizations try to do more with less, and employees are expected to pick up the slack. This often leads to a toxic work environment, where people are constantly stressed and overworked.

These are just a few reasons people come to me for career or business coaching. If you're feeling ready to quit your job, my advice is to explore all of your options and find something that genuinely makes you happy.

So what can you do if you're ready to quit your job?

First of all, don't panic. This is a big decision, and you should not take it lightly. If you're thinking about quitting your job, it's essential to take the time to reflect on your decision. What are your motivations for wanting to leave? What are your goals? What are your alternatives? Once you've thought through these questions, you'll be in a better position to make a decision.

If you're sure quitting your job is the right decision, the next step is to start planning your exit strategy. It doesn't mean that you have to leave tomorrow, but it does mean that you need to start thinking about how you're going to transition out of your current job. Are you going to give notice? Are you going to start looking for a new job first? Are you going to freelance or become self-employed? There are many options, and the best way forward will depend on your circumstances.

The most important thing is to make sure that you have a plan. Once you have a plan, quitting your job will be much easier (and less stressful). So take the time to think through your decision, find support (hey, hello, I can help!), and develop a plan that will work for you.

Quitting your job is a big decision, but it can be incredibly liberating. With careful planning and a bit of courage, you can leap and start living the life you want to live! If you're unhappy with your current situation, don't be afraid to explore your options and make a change.

I know because I see and help people do it every day!

Feeling stuck in your career?

You're not the only one. A lot of people are unhappy in their jobs, but they don't know what to do about it. That's where we come in! I'm a certified career coach, and I can help you figure out what you want to do and how to get there.

I'll help you find a job that makes you happy, and give you the tools you need to succeed. I've helped hundreds of people make a change for the better, and I know I can help you too.

Schedule your free session!

The tyranny of inherited dreams and how to get free from them

We’re all dreamers. Every single one of us. We have hopes, and wishes for ourselves, our loved ones and the future. Ask any person what they’d like to own or be and you’ll hear whispers of desire, stories of how things should be or could have been.

As a mentor to the unconventional I know a thing or two about dreams. I dive deep with my clients every day to help them figure out what they really want, and how to get it. Together we define a new path for their dream career or business.

Women come to me when they’re at a crossroad in their lives. They’ve been feeling that something’s off – sometimes for a really long time – and can’t ignore it any more.

They’re stuck in unfulfilling careers.
They’re tired of the endless and exhausting cycle of overwork and perfection.
They’re torn between their personal ambitions and the needs of others.
They yearn to grasp why – while doing everything right – they still aren’t happy.
They wonder what happened to them, and how they got where they are.
They’re weary of the guilt and shame for wanting what they want.
They’re tired of their self-doubt and lack of self-confidence.
They’re afraid of never being who they know they’re supposed to be.
They lack a sense of meaning, purpose, and direction in their life.

When I started working with these women I noticed something else about them.

They have many talents and passions.
They’re creative.
Hard-working.
Wholehearted.
Compassionate.
Ambitious.
Not afraid to get their hands dirty.
Smart.
Insatiable for knowledge.
And quick learners.

With all these amazing qualities, why is it so hard for them to figure out what they really want?

It’s the tyranny of inherited dreams.

Inherited dreams are the dreams we pursue but that we didn’t choose for ourselves. They’re a product of the world we’re born into. A mix of social expectations, false (limiting) beliefs about ourselves and the world, pressure to conform, and unwritten rules we believe we have to live by, passed down to us in childhood.

More often than not, we’re not aware those dreams aren’t really our own. But whether we know it or not, it’s incredibly hard to resist them. If we give in to them entirely (which, really, we’re all doing when we’re not asking questions), we turn into docile, sleepwalking robots producing what the system needs us to in order to sustain itself. While the system gets every need met, we estrange from our true nature, or deepest desires, and our authentic dreams.

I was a robot like that, from the day I started working as a freelancer to the day my parents passed away, almost two decades later.

• I wanted to be successful. Dressed in the nicest clothes, wearing expensive watches, carrying luxury bags, traveling the world, making tons of money. As a result I worked relentlessly – burned myself out – for years, trying to build the career I thought I needed to achieve that dream. I never got there…

• I wanted to be beautiful. Thin, youthful, tanned, smiling, hair and nails perfectly done, always put together. As a result I was on a diet from the age of 15, exercised excessively for the bigger part of my life. In the end I was never satisfied with my body or how I looked.

• I wanted to be liked. Catering to everyone’s needs, always aiming for perfection, as pleasing as I could be. As a result I was a push-over, had no boundaries, attracted the wrong partners, stayed in toxic relationships for years, had draining friendships, didn’t take care of myself, and was never really me.

Don’t misunderstand me. Wanting to be successful, beautiful or liked is all part of the bigger needs we have as humans: to be loved, to be fulfilled, to have purpose.

Love, fulfilment, purpose are NOT inherited dreams. They are our soulful connection to ourselves, and each other. They are our life breath. Without them we can never be truly happy.

What I mean by inherited dreams are the things we think we want in order to be loved, fulfilled, purposeful.

The culture we live in has made us belief that we can only achieve those things by being a certain way. Moreover, society also tells us that to be a certain way we need to have a specific and narrow set of material things and qualities.

• Success means money, status, power and all the “perks” that go with it. The clothes, the travels, the sandy beaches, the private jets. It also means being ready to do “everything it takes”, the glorification of busy, the relentless pursuit of productivity.

• Beauty means youth, thinness, whiteness. It also means being ready to starve yourself, to exercise beyond injury, to accept the dangers of surgery, and to reject and see as less than anything that doesn’t meet the beauty standard.

• Likability means politeness, not speaking too loud, being a good girl, and saying “yes”. It also means accepting others crossing your boundaries, putting yourself last on your list, bottling up your emotions, and not being your true self.

The issue with inherited dreams is that we don’t know they’re someone else’s. We’re so used to seeing others chase them that we believe we want to chase them too. No wonder we are. They’re EVERYWHERE. We read about them online or in magazines, we see them in movies, our friends have them…

I believe it is our right, as well as our responsibility, to look within ourselves. To examine, question and identify what we stand for so that we can live fulfilling, happy, courageous lives and pursue our own dreams.

The thing about inherited dreams is that they’re a construct. Just like all the rules that exist in the world, we – as a society – created them. Historical events, beliefs about the world, value systems upheld and shared by those in power all contributed to the inherited dreams we have today. But it wasn’t always this way, and it doesn’t need to be.

There’s something else buried deep beneath our inherited dreams.

Our truest, most authentic dreams. Our secret dreams.

Just like inherited dreams, I believe we all have secret dreams. The problem is that most of us have lost the map to find them in the pile of maps that lead us to other people’s dreams, a.k.a. nowhere.

To me, finding your way back to your secret dreams means dreaming bigger.

Dream Alchemy is a process of unraveling, imagination, and transformation. It’s not about having bigger or better versions of our inherited dreams. It’s about dismantling them. About admitting our most authentic, truest dreams to ourselves. About coming home to who we are.

Today I define success in terms of sustainability, self-care, and overall well-being both in my life and in my business. I define beauty through art, wonder, and curiosity. Inviting all that is unknown to me in, fighting for equality and justice. I define likability by how much of my true self I’m able to bring into my relationships, how much love I have to go through authenticity and respect for myself and others.

Does this mean I make no money any more or that I stopped shopping for clothes? No. What it means is that I now have a business that feels right to me, Smart Work™ systems that don’t exhaust me, marketing practices that are aligned with my values. I also still have a closet full of clothes. But I don’t need them to be happy.

My invitation to you is to question your dreams.

Ask yourself what really matters to you. Wonder about what you’d do if you knew you were loved unconditionally. Define what purpose means to you. Figure out what you really want. Question the rules you live by. Ask yourself where all those beliefs come from…

In other words: I want you to transform reality to finally fit your dreams.

Because yes, you have permission to dream differently – to dream YOU.

How Kristien became a horse trainer and traveling trail guide

Kristien is a multi-passionate woman with a bachelor degree in Psychology and a master in Theatre and Film. She first started out working in marketing and PR and later decided to specialize in fashion. Although Kristien seemed to follow her interests and come across engaging opportunities; she soon realized being stuck in an office all day staring at a computer screen wasn’t for her.

To find a job to match her talents turned out to be a challenge. Something always felt a bit off. That’s when I met Kristien. I’d coached Kristien’s sister, and after a successful coaching series with her she asked me if I could coach her sister.

Strengthened by the support of coaching Kristien realized her childhood dream of working with horses and being in touch with Nature was still very much alive. By the end of her 3 months of coaching she secured her first job as a horse trail guide, and was off to live out her life’s adventure.

Today, Kristien has two magnificent experiences under her belt, respectively in Hungary and South Africa, both working as a Trail Guide with horses. Soon she’s headed for Portugal where she’ll be working with Lusitanos, a proud Portuguese breed of horses.

What was your big dream, and what inspired you to go after it?

Life works in strange ways; you grow up and all kinds of things become important that weren’t before: what others think, what’s cool (especially when puberty kicks in), (first) love … Those things can easily side-track you from what you really want and soon I found myself lost and trying all kinds of studies and career choices that didn’t seem to fulfill me. I didn’t have a clue about what I wanted anymore. I pursued different things and lost my calling.

Finally I met you; in my opinion at the perfect time. I knew something had to give and I was open to receive the help that I knew I somehow (despite all of my enthusiasm) needed. What I truly craved for was someone who told me it was OK to change direction, to dig deep and disregard what all others desired of me and most of all to have someone by my side who believed in me.

It was only then that I could realize what my big dream was: working with horses and living an adventurous life.

Did you always had this dream?

Since I was young I just loved Nature, animals in particular. It was my escape from the human world, going into the woods and discovering the magical realm that lies beyond. I always felt that connection to Nature but that didn’t mean I listened to my gut feeling.

What was one of the first thing you did to get you started?

A life changer was the reading and workbook material you recommended to me.

When I started my sessions with you I wanted to start my own styling business – believe it or not. What the material did for me was to re-evaluate what I really wanted to do with my life. I was taken back to my childhood, I had to dig deep and think about my own style and what truly makes me happy in life.

What were the biggest challenges you faced in working toward achieving your dream?

What’s still a major hurdle, is the opinion of others. Let’s face it, 90% of the people who surround us lead traditional lives. When someone suddenly breaks out of the regular way of doing things people take notice and will have an opinion about it.

Reactions I faced for example were: ‘Oh poor girl, she’s still finding her way, she’ll realize how life works eventually’. Also within my family it was hard to be taken seriously. That being said, I couldn’t have undertaken this journey without their love and support. In general though, it seems that whenever you take a different path, you’ll have to find a way to prove yourself even more.

What do you wish you would have done differently? What would you warn others about?

The only regret I have is not doing this earlier!

Sometimes I wonder: what would my life have been like if I followed my true passion earlier? How much further would I have been reaching my goals? Of course I realise a lot of things happen for a reason and my guess is I probably wasn’t ready yet and still had some lessons to learn.

My life has always been interesting so I can’t complain too much but I do feel everything makes more sense now I know what I’m working towards. So my advice is don’t let your life drag on, let it take the right direction in which everything naturally flows!

Would you say you’ve achieved your big dream yet?

Absolutely … NOT! And thank goodness for that, it’s so much fun to keep on learning and growing. It will take time but time I have. As they say, it’s all about the process.

What do you think helped you achieve it?

An open mind, can do attitude, and the energy and willingness to change my life. Career coaching sessions with you, and the support of (a) special someone(s).

What’s the best advice you have for others who want to follow their big dreams?

Don’t be afraid when your goal starts to change over time. At first I wanted my experience to be all about Natural Horsemanship. But when I was at a horse festival in Portugal I suddenly thought: wow, this is where I want to be, these are the majestic horses I want to work with, this is the culture I want to experience … and when suddenly the opportunity arose, I simply took it. Although it wasn’t what I initially saw for myself.

Be ready to be flexible with your dreams. Before you know it your initial dream will come knocking at the door again and it all will seem to intertwine naturally.

Kristien working as a trail guide in Hungary

More about Kristien

Kristien is a multi-passionate horse trainer and traveling trail guide with a Natural Horsemanship perspective. Her next stop is Portugal, but who knows where her big dreams will lead her next?

You can follow Kristien’s travels, and adventures on Instagram @fiery_manes

Kristien’s favorite quote:

People only get really interesting when they start to rattle the bars of their cages.

– Alain de Botton

Kristien’s big dream for the world:

For horses to be treated as the magnificent creatures they are, with the respect they deserve. For animals in general to not be used for our never ending need of consumption anymore – I’m aiming to become a vegetarian. For people to believe in themselves and others instead of a higher power.

And of course … world peace ;)!

If you want more inspiring stories, I’ve got great news for you! This story is part of an interview series, you can find all entries here.