How Christine started a soulful creative services business

Christine is a vibrant, multi-passionate explorer of life. Following her own entrepreneurial path, Christine created a company where’s she able to enjoy and benefit from many of her passions: photography, writing, traveling, life coaching. Something I know many creative women would like to do, and the reason why I needed to know more about Christine’s inspiring journey. Here’s how she achieved her dream.

What was your big dream, and what inspired you to go after it?

The big vision I held that I couldn’t stop dreaming about was becoming a successful soulpreneur. I believed it was possible for me and I knew it was only a matter of time, but it still felt like another lifetime away.

I craved the freedom to fill my schedule with the variety of things and passions I came to love over the years. This entrepreneurial dream morphed when I found Life Coaching. It was the missing piece of my multi-passionate puzzle.

Did you always had this dream?

I wanted to become a full-fledged entrepreneur for as long as I can remember. The dream evolved – as I did – over time from a brick and mortar business to the latest iteration of a sustainable creative entrepreneur. As an internationally certified Life Coach, I support and empower both women and men to uncover true alignment with themselves and throughout their lives.

What was one of the first thing you did to get you started?

One of the very first steps I took toward pursuing this dream was enrolling in a class focused solely on Entrepreneurship during my senior year of high school. I went on to study and graduate with a Bachelor of Science in Management with honors to boot. I was pulling double duty throughout high school and my undergraduate studies as I worked my way up the ranks in various full-time retail positions, always with the hopes of taking my career to the next level.

What were the biggest challenges you faced in working toward achieving your dream?

I think it’s safe to say that any creative or entrepreneur deals with their own inner critic on a regular basis. Whether it’s with the far-fetched ideal of perfection or the notion of not-enoughness. As if that isn’t enough of a beast to wrestle, I also had to release and detach from people’s opinions and perspectives about my life and the way I chose to live it. It was imperative that I weed out the voices and attitudes from those people who ultimately didn’t support me and weren’t vital to my forward momentum. And, when you learn to be discerning, you begin celebrating yourself instead of relying on others for praise.

What do you wish you would have done differently? What would you warn others about?

There’s a big part of me that wishes I would have leapt and left my day job sooner to fully and wholeheartedly pursue creative entrepreneurship. With that being said, the biggest piece of advice I can offer is that there isn’t an exact equation or ‘right’ series of steps to follow. You’ve got to figure it out for yourself and your life.

Would you say you’ve achieved your big dream yet?

Yes! And I know it’s also only a matter of time until another level or bigger dream appears and it’ll be completely up to me to choose whether I grow with it or not.

What do you think helped you achieve it?

There were a number of things that helped me finally transition from an employee to an entrepreneur. Seeking out and developing an unwavering support system was hugely beneficial, but the belief in myself had to come first and foremost or I never would have jumped. I had to arrive at this place where I was more confident with my abilities and the work I wanted to share with the world and less concerned or worrisome of the unknown. And here’s the truth of the matter: the pleasure and pride I have for the work I now put out into the world as a writer and a life coach is more important than any opinions or critiques.

What’s the best advice you have for others who want to follow their big dreams?

The only piece of advice you need is to be relentless in paving your path! There will always be someone who has something to say if you’re looking for it so make things easier on yourself and stay focused on what actually matters. You are going to have challenges and obstacles come your way so you’ve got to find the thing worthy of your time and your fight.

Christine embodying soulful, unconventional courage

More about Christine – thrivingadventure.com

Equal parts explorer, writer, and life coach, Christine has a penchant for sharing her real (read: human) journey while encouraging people to reclaim ownership and reignite courage so they can live out the adventure of a lifetime within their own lives.

You can learn more about Christine’s work on her website.

You can follow Christine’s journey, and adventures on instagram @christine.barnes and read her thoughts, and insights about living an unconventional creative and courageous life on medium @hellochristineb

Christine’s favorite quote:

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.
– Mary Ann Radmacher

Christine’s big dream for the world:

To encourage and support women and men to live the adventure of a lifetime within their own lives! We all have the ability and power to live our best lives regardless of our backgrounds, our locations, or the paths we choose to pursue and I’m committed to making this less of a far-fetched idea and more of a reality.

If you want more inspiring stories, I’ve got great news for you! This story is part of an interview series, you can find all entries here.

What would you do if you weren't afraid to fail?

I’ve been spending a lot of time creating content for my popular Dream Bigger Goal Setting Program. While I was working on a unique daily planner yesterday (something special I’m putting together for the incredible humans enrolled in the program), I added a question in the introduction section of the planner that I love asking my clients and students.

What would you do if you weren’t afraid to fail?

The answers to that question are often out of the ordinary. When asked, some clients or students tell me they would simply aim for small changes in their lives, while others would go after big dreams. Although everyone has their own personal focus, and most answers are different, there are some things that are true for almost everyone. If they weren’t afraid to fail…

They would all gain confidence and believe in themselves

Knowing that you cannot fail takes away the fear, full-stop. It’s that simple. And, the consequences are pretty amazing. All of a sudden, things that look daring and big and unattainable become normal and totally doable, and you have no doubt that they are meant for you — and that you can and will indeed have what it is that you want.

Their goals wouldn’t really change, but they would jump more easily to achieve them

Almost none of my students or clients ever decide to go for other goals and dreams, rather than the ones they had already set for themselves. The big difference is that they believe that, if they cannot fail, they can go for them faster, without being so careful and without weighing all the options so much. And why not, right? When something is a sure thing, there’s no point in waiting – or being cautious for that matter!

They are all at least a little afraid

And who wouldn’t be, when working on their goals and designing the life they want? It would be so great to know that we cannot fail, but unfortunately we cannot escape uncertainty. And because the outcomes of our efforts is uncertain, and sometimes what we undertake asks so much of us (time, energy, commitment, effort, sacrifice… to name a few), it’s absolutely normal to have fears and moments of doubt.

I’ve become an avid goal-setting and dream pursuer, and I’ve been in business for more than 20 years. Still, I have doubts and fears, and moments when I’m not sure anymore, or times when uncertainty creeps up on me when I expect it the least. And I’m sure you do, too.

But, my guess is that when it comes to your big goals and dreams, most of all you’re afraid to fail. You’re looking at that big mountain in front of you, and you wonder: what if I don’t make it? What if I don’t succeed?

1. Learn to live your life fearlessly

If you know my personal story, you know I’ve had my share of fears over the years, but at some point I decided I wouldn’t let them rule my life anymore.

Now, I’m not here to say you need to live your life without fear, but I am saying you need to live it fearlessly! Fear is an ancient and primal emotion that has allowed the human race to survive. As such, it’s a powerful emotion. It has protected us from the unsafe and the unpredictable for centuries, and it has allowed us to thrive.

2. Take note of your flight reflex

But while we’ve evolved, this raw protective instinct of fight or flight did not. And while there might have been a lot of fighting in earlier times, when fear shows up today, we mostly want to run away.

• Like when we know we need to have “the conversation” with someone we care about, but we would rather do anything but.

• Or when we’re undertaking a big dream and things are not going the way we want them to. We expect a certain result (maybe some sales numbers in your business, or validation for your expertise, or recognition as an artist), but something else happens. With a lot of us — I’m no exception, believe me — when that happens, we would love nothing more than to run away from it all. There’s that flight instinct again!

And yes, you’ve got it right, this flight reflex is very present in our lives. More than you’re aware of, I’m sure. Take note of your reactions to situations for a few days, and you’ll get what I mean. It’s everywhere.

But what’s important to understand is that your fear is not against you. It’s just terribly overprotective (and really loves to run too).

3. Embrace your fears, and do it anyway

Elizabeth Gilbert calls this emotion “Grandfather Fear”. She says to it: “I know you’re scared because I’m going to expansively do something with an uncertain outcome, but we’re going to do it anyway.“

So when fear shows up, don’t take flight. But instead, think about what you would do if you weren’t afraid to fail. Then use that knowledge and confidence to do it anyway.

And when things get tough, remind yourself that being courageous is not being without fear, but rather believing deeply that your happiness lies on the other – fearless side – of life.